Distancing

From the time we are first born to the time we go into middle school we rely on our parents for guidence and protection. Kind of think of it, our parents are our security blanket they are the ones that we come running to when we are put between a rock and a hard place and there is no way out. We expect for them to have an answer to whatever questions we have or to be able to solve any problem we might face. We sometimes forget our parents are human and humans do not have an answer to every question we may have or are not able to solve any problem we may face. So, what happen when the security blanket we always trusted and depended on to be there for us in a time of need becomes helpless or "uncool?"
Well, this is the point where we want to throw away that security blanket and throw caution into the wind, but we are unconsciencious of what consequences this may have in the future. I think the main reason we distance ourselves from our parents is because as we grow up, it becomes more and more difficult to relate with our parent. Our parents spend less time with us because we make new friends, want to be independent, and our parents are unable to relate to what we are going through as teenagers. There are several barriers that make it difficult for our parents to relate to us, but the heavy weight ones are: cultural, technological, and age differences.
There is an average age difference of 20 years and because of this there are different events that we live through and these events shape our lives in an entire different way. The cultural difference is radically different, my mom grew up in a family of eleven brothers and sister in a ranch and they barely had enough money to satisfy their basic needs. While here we are privilage to have a good home with central air, enough money to buy good cloths, and to have some luxiries. Technology is something that most our parents today have absolutely no clue about. My mom doesn't even know how to use a simple mouse now can you imagine what they would do if the world was based entirely on computers and other more complex technology?
These differences make it difficult for parents and their children to relate on the same level and this is where we start distancing ourselves from our parents. It take both parent and their children to bridge these gaps.
Unfortunately, more often than not we don't even attempt to bridge the gaps and as a result, we find it difficult to communicate. The lack of communication might result in us making bad choices that lead to weary roads and when we try to vindicate our mistake it is too late and we pay costly consequences. Is a two way street, we need to connect with our parents and they have to connect with us and when we finally make that connection we will be able understand our parents and the reasons why they have done the things they have done.
We need to connect more with our parent otherwise the time we really do need them we are going to be afraid to go to them. Maybe just maybe is we were connected more with our parents we wouldn't need to do drugs or turn to any other things that in the long run are going to affect us in a negative way or kill us. This is the last post for this year is been great writing for all of you. I hope you enjoy all the things I had to say, remember to never give up, be kind to others, and always be yourself. Thanks to all the people who read my columns and to all my friends thanks for being there for me I wish you all the best. Class 05 we had a great time I wish you the best of luck in whatever future plans you may have. Is been great interacting and knowing all of you at Sunset, remember "be the change you want to see in the world."- Ghandi